FORGIVENEES....

Dwell Into optimistic>.

In life , we encounter all kinds of people and situations that can make us angry, disappointed, or hurt. We may have lost count of the number of times we fought with our spouse, friends, family members or colleagues over all sorts of issues, small or minor, large or major things.

Perhaps the situation even incited deep rage, such as being betrayed by your partner, or being attacked and injured by someone with bad intentions. As the years go by, we may store these incidents in our hearts, letting the resentment and anger to build.. Or we could learn to forgive, forget and let our bodies and mins heals from these excruciating pain.

Getting Sick oF Grudges!.

Holding on to a grudge, or harbouring unresolved anger over an issus, can actually make you sick!. When you do not forgive someone for their transgressions. you will constantly be thinking of that person in a pessimistic way. Everytime you see the person, or reminded of the event in some way, you will feel the anger bulbing to surface..You may even start thinking about revenge and eventually become obsessed with the thought.

When you forgive the people in your life for whatever problems may have arisen, you will find yourself feeling much more happier ! and healthier!!. Benefits of forgiveness...!

• Reduce stress !
• Good for heart !
• Reduce pain!
• Improve relationships!
• Make us happier!!

The art of forgiveness...

• Forgiving someone is easier said than done, It is tempting to hang on the grudge and the self-righteous feeling of being wronged. Some people don't want to forgive because they think that it means they're condoning the wrong act, or allowing the other person to " get away with it".
• Forgiveness does not mean ignoring the implications of the ac. But it does mean that you are letting go the past, and you are not allowing it to colour your present and future anymore...
• First step in forgiving...is making decision to pardon the other person. You must come to this decision on your own, and not be forced into it. You must also recognized the value that forgiveness will bring your own life
• Get some1 close to talk to help you forgive. Talk to a trusted family member or friend especially some1 who can be unbiased!! in assessing the situation.

Forgiving yourself!!!..

• None of us are perfect- sometimes , we are the ones who commit the wrongdoing to others, whether deliberately or inadvertently.
• In such cases, we would want the other party to forgive us. But we also have to forgive ourselves, or we will live with guilt forever.
• You have to admit your mistakes and acknowledge the hurt you may have caused the other person.
• you also hvae to commit to changing your behaviour!!- do not repeat the same faults that caused the wrongdoings in the first place, and resolve to treat others as you would wish to be treated.
• Do you seek out the other person to apologize? In some cases, this may be possible and is the right thing to do, Simply extend your sincerely apologies but do not make excuses for your behaviour.
• If they still couldn't forgive you, dont force them but should find peace in yourself because you have already acknowledge your bad behaviour
• Sometimes, we look so hard for the answers to good health in all sorts of places- but we forgot to look within ourselves...
• Forgive and move on- life is too short to dwell on the negative things in Life!

BY MY OLD FRIEND..(haha copy paste angin)

can i really did it ??? forgiveness 4 me is not a easy job...
but i will try my best...